well, प्यार is a feeling we can't help having. its like this big bright hole that आप suddenly find urself falling into.the light is blinding your eyes and आप can't see anything. आप feel like everything has changed. and then your eyes adapt and so do you. आप open your eyes and suddenly this whole new place pops out. everythings the same but different. suddenly the parking lot in front ur school looks like heaven. the stpid lamp post आप used to kick so often looks like an angel, the gods messenger. love, the slight touch of it changes everything.. आप find urself smiling alone, दिवास्वप्न a lot even fantasizing.. it makes आप a better person.. although i'm not saying that प्यार is a necessary boon for us. all i can say is आप need to drop into the hole to find the light...