✪ Beware the Copycat! ^w^ She Wants EVERYTHING आप Have…Even Your Man! *0*
By, Sinna Lin Song✥
What आप have आप have worked for, right? आप did not come द्वारा it the easy way. Why should someone else come along for the free ride on your स्कर्ट tails and try to STEAL it away… especially “love”?
Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery No?
This may be the long time expression; however, it can take some really twisted turns! This can spell a world of trouble for the devotee of the fan. It may be a sincere compliment to the fact that you, the one being copied, have it 'going on' या maybe someone else is just too darn lazy and not creative enough to just work for their own. Yet~ maybe they LITERALLY want something आप have and aim to TAKE it!
I recently read an लेख [which I will credit below] but I thought that maybe I should share my experience on this matter, as I have had this happen to me!
THE FANGIRL
There are a few “types” to look for that can be the copycat… these culprits can be all one-in-the-same या a combo. One warning sign is when someone {same sex, nothing sexual} wants to be so close TOO fast and says "I प्यार you!" repeatedly when आप do not even know them and have not really ever कहा और than two words... that is a bit creepy. It may not seem like it at first, but stalkers are the real deal. प्रशंसकों sometimes attach themselves like a barnacle to a ship and it is really hard to get them off! आप don't want to be mean. आप do not know them in the beginning. "I प्यार आप Sis! Why are आप not talking to me???? T.T I miss you! Do आप HATE me? T^T"~ and आप have no idea who they are या what they are even talking about? :( But soon enough, after being casual and going about your business आप begin to see what will set them apart from others as stalkerish या just strange.
BEWARE THE FLATTERING FRIEND: the one who seems to start doing everything आप do immediately after आप do it (especially if आप see या know she has never done these things before that आप are aware of). She asks your सलाह and then tries to one up you, right?
She not only wants to be like you…she wants to BE you! She wants your boyfriend to like her too. If आप don’t watch it, she’ll try to steal him in a New York second!
Identify the Idolater
She can be easy to distinguish from the crowd. आप spot her wearing the same clothes आप do [icons]. She suddenly picks up your activities (ironically) and joins your groups [clubs]. At first आप think she just respects you/admires your taste. After a bit, it begins to get a little annoying. There is a feeling that she is lurking या hanging onto activities [clubs] you’re involved with and then she suddenly pops up right after आप do. She may begin to participate twice as much as आप do & ordinarily that would be a good thing. आप may even feel guilty that for some odd reason there is a nagging impression that this seems out of place & strange.
She invites herself to conversations (usually ones that were not quite open ones) and yet, आप do not wish to be rude… right? So आप ignore any slights of over eagerness and continue to be civil या nice. At some point, usually rather quickly, she jumps into friendships with your friends, (often giving generously), especially those who seem closest to आप and the cute/hot guy friends. Even though she does not know any of them, she suddenly acts as if she is their best friend.
She is assuming the spot that has been reserved for tried and tested placement that only time and earning those bonds of trust can give…[or so आप thought] and yet she places herself already there with these people head-on. The chumminess can become almost sickening at this point how thick she is laying it on, even if they are just sort of ‘looking’ at her in bewilderment~ like “WHO are आप again?
Suddenly, your फ्रेंड्स start to become her friends…or so she thinks. But if they’re true friends, they’ll be able to distinguish between the genuine लेख and the fake who follows आप everywhere. They’ll start to notice this new accoutrement/[person] & some may even make mention या ask.
If आप are the buddy-buddy stage of the game, WATCH OUT! Next, she is likely to be making the moves on your guy!
She admires आप so much, in fact, that she wants to be you-and that means to have what आप have. She is secretively paying attention and learning from how आप do things. She is as sneaky as a little snake ~ and she is in your garden! She is constantly trying to do what आप do, but better (though it may well seem forced and too tried). She has most likely watched your interactions with your man. She will blatantly let him know she’s available… but only when आप are not there. She wants आप BOTH to like her. She needs that affirmation and attention.
Now is time to stop playing the game and call the bluff with those आप are close to. Ask them if they have noticed and ask them to be aware. Hopefully it is not too late that आप have sensed something is up. interaction with her. Leave when she is around. Tell her आप do not have time, rude as it may sound. Try to give her no information and nothing to work with (including taking your boyfriend with you).
Snakes do not just try to get in the front door. If that does not work-there is the back! 0.0 ANY way at all they can find a crack to get in!
So what happens if your friend/s या even your Honey falls prey & is fooled द्वारा the imitator and lets them in? What can आप do? Nothing. Have they taken your life and become you? No. आप हटाइए on.
आप just have to accept that he was a counterfeit version of the boyfriend आप thought आप had. If he’s a sucker for the suck-up, then he will get what he deserves, and that is NOT you.
She will not be able to live up to the facade. Her mask will fade and she will eventually be exposed for who she is. आप will not have to do anything. The truth is she will never be you. If she was really better than आप to begin with, she would not have had to go about resorting to such underhanded and devious tactics. How is she going to keep being like आप if she doesn’t have आप around anymore to mimic? No one learns everything they need that fast. Her quick-study will crumble because her insides do not match her outsides. If someone seeks to fill your shoes it's hard if they are pretty unique shoes to fill, then it is NOT so easy.
You will then be rid of TWO fakes.
These super-fans may be super sorry & that boyfriend may be too, but I would not buy it. Trust is earned. Actions speak louder than words.
आप may be hurt and angry-but be thankful that आप saw people for who they really were sooner rather than later! Don't let things get any worse!
__________________________________
THE BUTTHURT CLOSET CREEPER
Here is the girl who may want you, your man, या BOTH~ literally, and आप would never even know या have noticed because she was not very visible-more behind the scenes and then just happened to be caught in the light because something आप या your Hunny-bunny कहा called her out and caught her off-guard. Now she is pissed off and butt hurt. Whoops. आप had no idea she was going to react quite that way going from quiet to EXTREME!!
Woooooo-hold on! आप had no idea this person was at all so interested in what आप had to say या perhaps followed आप and had been watching you! 0.0 Now आप want them to take chill pill and it is too late! आप feel like आप messed up maybe somehow but no matter the details, they have gone absolutely psycho!
This is where it suddenly gets hairy and scary and escalates usually no matter what आप do. आप had no idea how much stock they put into your opinion and no idea just how obsessed someone could get!
Sometimes the deluge of hate takes a strange turn and they begin to emulate. They may accuse आप of what they are actually themselves, या say that आप are doing what they are really the one अभिनय in. They begin to sound like the medieval town crier and start saying this louder and louder, at the चोटी, शीर्ष of their voice, for anyone who happens द्वारा to hear. It is embarrassing ~and that is part of the reason they are doing that.
They want to be your mirror, too, not only to mess with आप but to make themselves look better. If they could somehow wriggle into your skin या even fake having your boyfriend without any permission what-so-ever needed द्वारा him, then now -see, they will be liked too. They are a quiet bully that waits to pounce and part of being that bully means a psychological warfare. Emotional manipulation is the name of the game because they are vying for control and dominance.
Where the overzealous and treacherous Fangirl was the garden snake who seems harmless and yet might be mistakenly poisonous, this is the अजगर that will eat आप whole. Watch out. Do not let them लपेटें around आप या आप may be done for. This is the type that can be the malicious cyber-bully या a real-life ruthless identity thief. She may be sooo blatant that there is no chance she could "steal" your man, but she can darn sure "try" to ruin your relationship.
If your guy is smart and has some sense, he will see straight through her and be your support. Efforts द्वारा sadistic females like this can actually make already healthy relationships stronger. It can definitely backfire on her and have an opposite effect.
Where the super-fan Fangirl will try to seem like the innocent victim, the Butthurt Creeper can play that game too, but usually the difference is that they are much और vocal and volatile.
Do not give them an inch.
Woman, Defend Thyself!
The mess may be messy and seem to ever thicken in a black pool of drama that threatens to suck आप under, but if आप will hold fast and hold your ground it can be daunted. आप can be the victor even if it seems there is no chance. Even a pit-bull has to eat sometime and must let go. Do whatever आप have to. और than anything, keep your spirits up and try NOT to sink to their level.
___________________________________
THE VULTURE
This is the one that circles your relationship -just waiting for the chance. Finally, when death seems imminent, (not literally-figuratively, I hope!) the गिद्ध will वृत्त round, circling ever lower and nearer. The target of her intentions is someone and something that might not normally be in her range. This is the carrion bird (the one who devours the snake). This is the female who lurks and waits until she sees a safer opening: a weak moment-possibly a spat या fight या some separation and then will immediately swoop in during that lapse. They do not hesitate to make a feast of your relationship even if it is NOT dead yet because they are soooo hungry they cannot wait. Their appetite is not for the kill but to dine on easy prey/one someone else has. For some reason this gives them the satisfaction that they earned it~ when in fact, they did just the opposite.
____________________________________
Can आप save yourself या your man from that mess (ANY of these)?
Honesty sometimes it is your best weapon and defense. This is just in my humble opinion -more than आप can say of the other female who threatens your peace या tries to come along and take या destroy that which is not hers to begin with. One word: Karma.
...('Or if आप do not believe in karma, then: "What comes around goes around," या "You reap what आप sow.")
This लेख was written and based upon an लेख द्वारा द्वारा Claire Aldrich
Netscape, AOL online, 2013, Fun Online
By, Sinna Lin Song✥
What आप have आप have worked for, right? आप did not come द्वारा it the easy way. Why should someone else come along for the free ride on your स्कर्ट tails and try to STEAL it away… especially “love”?
Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery No?
This may be the long time expression; however, it can take some really twisted turns! This can spell a world of trouble for the devotee of the fan. It may be a sincere compliment to the fact that you, the one being copied, have it 'going on' या maybe someone else is just too darn lazy and not creative enough to just work for their own. Yet~ maybe they LITERALLY want something आप have and aim to TAKE it!
I recently read an लेख [which I will credit below] but I thought that maybe I should share my experience on this matter, as I have had this happen to me!
THE FANGIRL
There are a few “types” to look for that can be the copycat… these culprits can be all one-in-the-same या a combo. One warning sign is when someone {same sex, nothing sexual} wants to be so close TOO fast and says "I प्यार you!" repeatedly when आप do not even know them and have not really ever कहा और than two words... that is a bit creepy. It may not seem like it at first, but stalkers are the real deal. प्रशंसकों sometimes attach themselves like a barnacle to a ship and it is really hard to get them off! आप don't want to be mean. आप do not know them in the beginning. "I प्यार आप Sis! Why are आप not talking to me???? T.T I miss you! Do आप HATE me? T^T"~ and आप have no idea who they are या what they are even talking about? :( But soon enough, after being casual and going about your business आप begin to see what will set them apart from others as stalkerish या just strange.
BEWARE THE FLATTERING FRIEND: the one who seems to start doing everything आप do immediately after आप do it (especially if आप see या know she has never done these things before that आप are aware of). She asks your सलाह and then tries to one up you, right?
She not only wants to be like you…she wants to BE you! She wants your boyfriend to like her too. If आप don’t watch it, she’ll try to steal him in a New York second!
Identify the Idolater
She can be easy to distinguish from the crowd. आप spot her wearing the same clothes आप do [icons]. She suddenly picks up your activities (ironically) and joins your groups [clubs]. At first आप think she just respects you/admires your taste. After a bit, it begins to get a little annoying. There is a feeling that she is lurking या hanging onto activities [clubs] you’re involved with and then she suddenly pops up right after आप do. She may begin to participate twice as much as आप do & ordinarily that would be a good thing. आप may even feel guilty that for some odd reason there is a nagging impression that this seems out of place & strange.
She invites herself to conversations (usually ones that were not quite open ones) and yet, आप do not wish to be rude… right? So आप ignore any slights of over eagerness and continue to be civil या nice. At some point, usually rather quickly, she jumps into friendships with your friends, (often giving generously), especially those who seem closest to आप and the cute/hot guy friends. Even though she does not know any of them, she suddenly acts as if she is their best friend.
She is assuming the spot that has been reserved for tried and tested placement that only time and earning those bonds of trust can give…[or so आप thought] and yet she places herself already there with these people head-on. The chumminess can become almost sickening at this point how thick she is laying it on, even if they are just sort of ‘looking’ at her in bewilderment~ like “WHO are आप again?
Suddenly, your फ्रेंड्स start to become her friends…or so she thinks. But if they’re true friends, they’ll be able to distinguish between the genuine लेख and the fake who follows आप everywhere. They’ll start to notice this new accoutrement/[person] & some may even make mention या ask.
If आप are the buddy-buddy stage of the game, WATCH OUT! Next, she is likely to be making the moves on your guy!
She admires आप so much, in fact, that she wants to be you-and that means to have what आप have. She is secretively paying attention and learning from how आप do things. She is as sneaky as a little snake ~ and she is in your garden! She is constantly trying to do what आप do, but better (though it may well seem forced and too tried). She has most likely watched your interactions with your man. She will blatantly let him know she’s available… but only when आप are not there. She wants आप BOTH to like her. She needs that affirmation and attention.
Now is time to stop playing the game and call the bluff with those आप are close to. Ask them if they have noticed and ask them to be aware. Hopefully it is not too late that आप have sensed something is up. interaction with her. Leave when she is around. Tell her आप do not have time, rude as it may sound. Try to give her no information and nothing to work with (including taking your boyfriend with you).
Snakes do not just try to get in the front door. If that does not work-there is the back! 0.0 ANY way at all they can find a crack to get in!
So what happens if your friend/s या even your Honey falls prey & is fooled द्वारा the imitator and lets them in? What can आप do? Nothing. Have they taken your life and become you? No. आप हटाइए on.
आप just have to accept that he was a counterfeit version of the boyfriend आप thought आप had. If he’s a sucker for the suck-up, then he will get what he deserves, and that is NOT you.
She will not be able to live up to the facade. Her mask will fade and she will eventually be exposed for who she is. आप will not have to do anything. The truth is she will never be you. If she was really better than आप to begin with, she would not have had to go about resorting to such underhanded and devious tactics. How is she going to keep being like आप if she doesn’t have आप around anymore to mimic? No one learns everything they need that fast. Her quick-study will crumble because her insides do not match her outsides. If someone seeks to fill your shoes it's hard if they are pretty unique shoes to fill, then it is NOT so easy.
You will then be rid of TWO fakes.
These super-fans may be super sorry & that boyfriend may be too, but I would not buy it. Trust is earned. Actions speak louder than words.
आप may be hurt and angry-but be thankful that आप saw people for who they really were sooner rather than later! Don't let things get any worse!
__________________________________
THE BUTTHURT CLOSET CREEPER
Here is the girl who may want you, your man, या BOTH~ literally, and आप would never even know या have noticed because she was not very visible-more behind the scenes and then just happened to be caught in the light because something आप या your Hunny-bunny कहा called her out and caught her off-guard. Now she is pissed off and butt hurt. Whoops. आप had no idea she was going to react quite that way going from quiet to EXTREME!!
Woooooo-hold on! आप had no idea this person was at all so interested in what आप had to say या perhaps followed आप and had been watching you! 0.0 Now आप want them to take chill pill and it is too late! आप feel like आप messed up maybe somehow but no matter the details, they have gone absolutely psycho!
This is where it suddenly gets hairy and scary and escalates usually no matter what आप do. आप had no idea how much stock they put into your opinion and no idea just how obsessed someone could get!
Sometimes the deluge of hate takes a strange turn and they begin to emulate. They may accuse आप of what they are actually themselves, या say that आप are doing what they are really the one अभिनय in. They begin to sound like the medieval town crier and start saying this louder and louder, at the चोटी, शीर्ष of their voice, for anyone who happens द्वारा to hear. It is embarrassing ~and that is part of the reason they are doing that.
They want to be your mirror, too, not only to mess with आप but to make themselves look better. If they could somehow wriggle into your skin या even fake having your boyfriend without any permission what-so-ever needed द्वारा him, then now -see, they will be liked too. They are a quiet bully that waits to pounce and part of being that bully means a psychological warfare. Emotional manipulation is the name of the game because they are vying for control and dominance.
Where the overzealous and treacherous Fangirl was the garden snake who seems harmless and yet might be mistakenly poisonous, this is the अजगर that will eat आप whole. Watch out. Do not let them लपेटें around आप या आप may be done for. This is the type that can be the malicious cyber-bully या a real-life ruthless identity thief. She may be sooo blatant that there is no chance she could "steal" your man, but she can darn sure "try" to ruin your relationship.
If your guy is smart and has some sense, he will see straight through her and be your support. Efforts द्वारा sadistic females like this can actually make already healthy relationships stronger. It can definitely backfire on her and have an opposite effect.
Where the super-fan Fangirl will try to seem like the innocent victim, the Butthurt Creeper can play that game too, but usually the difference is that they are much और vocal and volatile.
Do not give them an inch.
Woman, Defend Thyself!
The mess may be messy and seem to ever thicken in a black pool of drama that threatens to suck आप under, but if आप will hold fast and hold your ground it can be daunted. आप can be the victor even if it seems there is no chance. Even a pit-bull has to eat sometime and must let go. Do whatever आप have to. और than anything, keep your spirits up and try NOT to sink to their level.
___________________________________
THE VULTURE
This is the one that circles your relationship -just waiting for the chance. Finally, when death seems imminent, (not literally-figuratively, I hope!) the गिद्ध will वृत्त round, circling ever lower and nearer. The target of her intentions is someone and something that might not normally be in her range. This is the carrion bird (the one who devours the snake). This is the female who lurks and waits until she sees a safer opening: a weak moment-possibly a spat या fight या some separation and then will immediately swoop in during that lapse. They do not hesitate to make a feast of your relationship even if it is NOT dead yet because they are soooo hungry they cannot wait. Their appetite is not for the kill but to dine on easy prey/one someone else has. For some reason this gives them the satisfaction that they earned it~ when in fact, they did just the opposite.
____________________________________
Can आप save yourself या your man from that mess (ANY of these)?
Honesty sometimes it is your best weapon and defense. This is just in my humble opinion -more than आप can say of the other female who threatens your peace या tries to come along and take या destroy that which is not hers to begin with. One word: Karma.
...('Or if आप do not believe in karma, then: "What comes around goes around," या "You reap what आप sow.")
This लेख was written and based upon an लेख द्वारा द्वारा Claire Aldrich
Netscape, AOL online, 2013, Fun Online