In Part I, we explored the often devastating effect of violating marriage vows, but we also saw that such an outcome is built into the structure of marriage. So we moved on to the higher सवाल of what commitment is best in a hypothetical world in which marriage has not yet been invented. This is the same as loving but avoiding the Marriage commitment. Okay, so now I meet the girl of my dreams, the attraction is mutual, and I have to decide how I will प्यार her. Regardless of how she is feeling and how she देखा गया our relationship, is there an advantage if I personally commit to loving her for life as opposed to, say, loving her for two years? If I प्यार her for two years, then I have और freedom, and I can trade up for prettier, racier model. Hmmm...what does that say about the quality of my प्यार for her? If I'm looking आगे to trading her in for a prettier girl, या one who cooks better, then did I ever really प्यार her in the first place? No, I guess I didn't, at least not very much. That case only works for me if I am happy with a low grade relationship, perhaps one that is 80/20 centered on the sexual benefits.
No, what I am looking for is the highest romantic relationship attainable. If I achieved that, what would it look like? Certainly it would have many qualities, two of which are that I would see only her as the partner I want, and, darn, if she's the only one for me, then it follows द्वारा necessity that she would be the only one for me forever. Anything else is less than what I am trying to attain. So I'm stuck with the lifetime commitment. The payoff is that it gives me the best shot I will ever have at achieving the highest प्यार I could ever know. The benefits equation is clear, even if it did take me a while to figure it out.
And, आप know, it's funny how the above logic dovetails with a discussion I heard on talk radio the other day. The दिखाना featured guest speakers with opposite viewpoints who appeared back-to-back, without debating each other, instead explaining their positions, then facing सवालों from callers. The सेकंड speaker advocated premarital virginity as the best chance we have for building strong marriages that are happy for life. दिया how out-of-fashion the very idea of virginity is in our current culture, I was impressed with the guts this guy showed to take such a position on talk radio. But I needn't have worried. He explained his position well and fielded all questions.
He कहा that virginity is worth preserving because first time sex is so profound that it produces emotional reactions that can never be duplicated. He कहा that regardless of your religious persuasion, the ancients learned that the first time sexual experience, if staged properly on the wedding night, can be converted to an emotional commitment strong enough to give marriage lifetime staying power.
And darn if he didn't present an alternate argument that was equally intriguing. He कहा that our emotional selves are just like our physical bodies in the way they can be irreversibly scarred, damaged and mutilated to dysfunctionality. He contended that premarital sex, once the usual pattern of emotional failure was established, had such a damaging effect, rendering the person less able to genuinely experience lasting emotional commitments in the future. He described our society as a churning mass of mutilated souls, each bouncing from one failed relationship to the next, each failure doing और damage and making it less likely that they would ever find fulfillment.
This discussion utterly transfixed my interest. I had long thought of virginity as a concept rich in religious significance. But I hadn't thought of it as having benefits in its own right. I mention it because the concept of virginity before marriage is similar and has parallels to that of lifetime commitment. They seem similar. One parallel is that they both promise the chance of higher long-term benefits, but require deliberate decisions to forego pleasures that seem somewhat short-term द्वारा comparison.
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R (Rob) Costelloe
link was published in June of 2007. In a departure from conventional novels of this genre, this प्यार story describes characters who प्यार at a higher level than the world all around them, a level requiring mental preparation as well as emotional commitment. The प्रेमी face unique challenges in reaching the zenith they seek, and the story examines some of the challenges and pitfalls they face on their journey. The manuscript received multiple contract offers for publication, and Saga पुस्तकें published it on a fast track basis in less than three months. To learn more, visit Rob's website at www.rcostelloe.com
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No, what I am looking for is the highest romantic relationship attainable. If I achieved that, what would it look like? Certainly it would have many qualities, two of which are that I would see only her as the partner I want, and, darn, if she's the only one for me, then it follows द्वारा necessity that she would be the only one for me forever. Anything else is less than what I am trying to attain. So I'm stuck with the lifetime commitment. The payoff is that it gives me the best shot I will ever have at achieving the highest प्यार I could ever know. The benefits equation is clear, even if it did take me a while to figure it out.
And, आप know, it's funny how the above logic dovetails with a discussion I heard on talk radio the other day. The दिखाना featured guest speakers with opposite viewpoints who appeared back-to-back, without debating each other, instead explaining their positions, then facing सवालों from callers. The सेकंड speaker advocated premarital virginity as the best chance we have for building strong marriages that are happy for life. दिया how out-of-fashion the very idea of virginity is in our current culture, I was impressed with the guts this guy showed to take such a position on talk radio. But I needn't have worried. He explained his position well and fielded all questions.
He कहा that virginity is worth preserving because first time sex is so profound that it produces emotional reactions that can never be duplicated. He कहा that regardless of your religious persuasion, the ancients learned that the first time sexual experience, if staged properly on the wedding night, can be converted to an emotional commitment strong enough to give marriage lifetime staying power.
And darn if he didn't present an alternate argument that was equally intriguing. He कहा that our emotional selves are just like our physical bodies in the way they can be irreversibly scarred, damaged and mutilated to dysfunctionality. He contended that premarital sex, once the usual pattern of emotional failure was established, had such a damaging effect, rendering the person less able to genuinely experience lasting emotional commitments in the future. He described our society as a churning mass of mutilated souls, each bouncing from one failed relationship to the next, each failure doing और damage and making it less likely that they would ever find fulfillment.
This discussion utterly transfixed my interest. I had long thought of virginity as a concept rich in religious significance. But I hadn't thought of it as having benefits in its own right. I mention it because the concept of virginity before marriage is similar and has parallels to that of lifetime commitment. They seem similar. One parallel is that they both promise the chance of higher long-term benefits, but require deliberate decisions to forego pleasures that seem somewhat short-term द्वारा comparison.
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R (Rob) Costelloe
link was published in June of 2007. In a departure from conventional novels of this genre, this प्यार story describes characters who प्यार at a higher level than the world all around them, a level requiring mental preparation as well as emotional commitment. The प्रेमी face unique challenges in reaching the zenith they seek, and the story examines some of the challenges and pitfalls they face on their journey. The manuscript received multiple contract offers for publication, and Saga पुस्तकें published it on a fast track basis in less than three months. To learn more, visit Rob's website at www.rcostelloe.com
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