Sexuality is such a hot-button issue these days. "Are आप gay? Are आप straight?" But what do these सवालों really mean? How can anyone really answer these सवालों to the best of their ability, especially when we have people who are well into their fifties and sixties and still haven't figured it out?
I believe it was Alyssa in Chasing Amy who कहा it best: "I came to this on my terms. I didn't just heed what I was taught, आप know? Men and women should be together, it's the natural way - that kind of thing. I'm not with आप because of what family, society, life tried to instill in me from दिन one. The way the world is - how seldom आप meet that one person who gets you... it's so rare. My parents didn't really have it. There was no example set for me in the world of male/female relationships. And to cut oneself off from finding that person - to immediately half your options द्वारा eliminating the possibility of finding that one person within your own gender... that just seemed stupid. So I didn't. And द्वारा leaving my options open, I was branded 'gay', which to me was no big deal - labels are labels, आप know? They define what आप do, not who आप are, I guess. But then आप come along. आप - the one least likely; I mean, आप were a guy."
So my सलाह to आप is this: When some nosy, label-oriented person demands that आप tell them your sexuality-- a very personal revelation, even if आप decide to classify yourself as "straight"-- tell them that आप are interested in falling in प्यार with a person. Why? Because it's the truth.
Alyssa (or Kevin Smith) is right when she says that it's about finding that one person, regardless of gender, that आप feel the most comfortable with, and who आप care the most about. It has been कहा many times that the एल जी बी टी community isn't about gender, it's about love and that is the truest phrase that could ever be कहा on the subject.
I have been accused myself of lumping too many things under labels in this spot and elsewhere, and I own up to it. I even made a link where I asked आप to identify your sexuality. Why? Because we feel comfortable with labels. Coming out and declaring "I'm gay!" is both a terrifying and liberating experience, because it means that we are something, and it's easier to be something clear than to be something obscure. We are comfortable with labels because they give us our identity while simultaneously dividing us from the rest of the world. And now, I'm not just talking about gay, straight, bi-- I'm talking democrat, republican, black, white, Asian, Arab, American, French, British, Canadian, girl, boy, teen, adult-- Anything that आप choose to identify yourself as. It's good to be something, but don't forget the label that fits आप like a glove-- Human.
"Love is प्यार is love," कहा Paulo in link द्वारा Octavio Solis. It is beyond labels. It is beyond comprehension, and it is beyond the laws of physics.
It just is.
So break the societal mold: Fall in प्यार with a person.
I believe it was Alyssa in Chasing Amy who कहा it best: "I came to this on my terms. I didn't just heed what I was taught, आप know? Men and women should be together, it's the natural way - that kind of thing. I'm not with आप because of what family, society, life tried to instill in me from दिन one. The way the world is - how seldom आप meet that one person who gets you... it's so rare. My parents didn't really have it. There was no example set for me in the world of male/female relationships. And to cut oneself off from finding that person - to immediately half your options द्वारा eliminating the possibility of finding that one person within your own gender... that just seemed stupid. So I didn't. And द्वारा leaving my options open, I was branded 'gay', which to me was no big deal - labels are labels, आप know? They define what आप do, not who आप are, I guess. But then आप come along. आप - the one least likely; I mean, आप were a guy."
So my सलाह to आप is this: When some nosy, label-oriented person demands that आप tell them your sexuality-- a very personal revelation, even if आप decide to classify yourself as "straight"-- tell them that आप are interested in falling in प्यार with a person. Why? Because it's the truth.
Alyssa (or Kevin Smith) is right when she says that it's about finding that one person, regardless of gender, that आप feel the most comfortable with, and who आप care the most about. It has been कहा many times that the एल जी बी टी community isn't about gender, it's about love and that is the truest phrase that could ever be कहा on the subject.
I have been accused myself of lumping too many things under labels in this spot and elsewhere, and I own up to it. I even made a link where I asked आप to identify your sexuality. Why? Because we feel comfortable with labels. Coming out and declaring "I'm gay!" is both a terrifying and liberating experience, because it means that we are something, and it's easier to be something clear than to be something obscure. We are comfortable with labels because they give us our identity while simultaneously dividing us from the rest of the world. And now, I'm not just talking about gay, straight, bi-- I'm talking democrat, republican, black, white, Asian, Arab, American, French, British, Canadian, girl, boy, teen, adult-- Anything that आप choose to identify yourself as. It's good to be something, but don't forget the label that fits आप like a glove-- Human.
"Love is प्यार is love," कहा Paulo in link द्वारा Octavio Solis. It is beyond labels. It is beyond comprehension, and it is beyond the laws of physics.
It just is.
So break the societal mold: Fall in प्यार with a person.