Dating Version 2.0: Modern Dating
Some of the old ways of dating could be use an upgrade. Welcome 2014 with these new and improved rules!
For most of us, the best--and usually our first--source of our dating सलाह is our family. We rely on the experiences and wise words of Mom, Sister, and in some cases even Grandmother, for the do's and don'ts of boys and relationships. But as years pass by, it might be time to rule out some of Mom's and Grandma's old (and old-fashioned) rules on dating and come up with reasonable guidelines that appeal to और modern minds.
The Old Way:
~Date only boys who belong to your वृत्त of friends.
The New Way:
~While there is some comfort in going out with guys you've known since grade school, remember that the whole point is dating is to get to know new people. The spirit of the new decade is overcoming boundaries, and a great way to take part in it is द्वारा dating outside your usual "type" या group. For instance, just because you're a computer geek, it doesn't mean that आप can't go out with a cute बास्केटबाल, बास्केटबॉल, बास्केट बॉल player. All it takes is a little confident. If Troy and Gabriella from High School Musical या Rachel and Finn from Glee were able to do it, why can't you?
The Old Way:
~Wait द्वारा the phone for him to call to ask आप out.
The New Way:
~The old saying, "Never call a boy first", may have been right during your grandmother's time, but with all the ways of communication available now, it seems silly not to drop him any hints that you're interested. Text him, chat him over Yahoo Messenger, leave a message on his फेसबुक Wall, या mention him on Twitter. आप don't have to ask him out straight up if you're not comfortable with it, but it's okay to remind him that you're around if he wants to hang out.
The Old Way:
~Ask him to pick आप up from your house.
The New Way:
~Sure, there's still some merit to having a guy दिखाना up at your doorstep, then drop आप off after the तारीख, दिनांक for a possible Hollywood-style goodnight kiss. But there's also no reason why आप can't meet him at a public place, like the restaurant where आप plan to have रात का खाना या the bowling alley where आप intended to hang out. Arriving and leaving on your own saves time---and it helps आप avoid an awkward drive घर if the तारीख, दिनांक goes sour.
The Old Way:
~Just have a रात का खाना and watch movie.
The New Way:
~It's not the 50's anymore---dating doesn't have to mean रात का खाना and movie all the time. Though it's great to share a meal and see a cool flick, there are tons of other fun activities आप can do together without spending too much like playing at the park, bowling, ice skating and many more. आप can even bring some mutual फ्रेंड्स along to avoid any uncomfortable first-date experience moments. लपेटें up the दिन (or night) at a quiet coffee खरीडिए so आप can grab a bite, talk about your adventures together, and get to know each other in peace.
The Old Way:
~Sit pretty and let him make all the decisions.
The New Way:
~The days when girls were not much और than decoration for the रात का खाना तालिका, टेबल are long gone. Most of the guys like girls who think for themselves, and who can churn out और than just, "Anywhere आप want, it's up to you" in response to the question, "So, where do आप want to go?" Feel free to suggest a restaurant आप प्यार या an activity आप find interesting. Your तारीख, दिनांक will appreciate your sharing the pressure of decision-making and will respect आप और for it.
The Old Way:
~Turn away all his compliments so आप won't seem too eager या mayabang.
The New Way:
~One of the most common compliments among guys is that girl's can't seem to take a compliment. There's no need for आप to bring yourself down या tell him, "You're just saying that." Accept his praise with grace! Nine times out of 10, he's telling the truth and आप know it. A simple "Thank you" will दिखाना that you're confident and comfortable with your self---plus, he'll appreciate being thanked for noticing how nice आप look in your dress या how much pretty आप are.
The Old Way:
~Introduce your तारीख, दिनांक to your parents first.
The New Way:
~While your parents' opinions definitely matter, putting your guy in the hot सीट too soon exerts unnecessary pressure on the relationship. A guy who doesn't know आप that well may not yet be ready for your Mom's loaded statements and your Dad's underhanded threats. It's best to wait for things to become serious before bringing him घर to your family. It also helps आप avoid all the awkward सवालों when things end before they can truly begin.
The Old Way:
~Expect fireworks and romance on a one-on-one date.
The New Way:
~These days, there's a huge difference between a friendly date and a date-date. A guy won't break out the flowers, chocolates, and sweet gestures right away. Chances are, he'll call it "hanging out" and fall a few notches sort of The Perfect Gentleman In Your Head. The modern girl knows not to expect too much from a single date---and knows that chemistry and attraction can never be forced.
The Classics:
While some rules evolved overtime, there are still etched in the stone.
1.Be your self:
~Put your best foot forward, but make sure आप stay true to who आप are. Never lie to impress.
2.Be on time:
~We know आप want to be fashionably late, but keeping him waiting any longer than 15 मिनटों is just a plain rude.
3.Wear an appropriate amount of makeup:
~It's a date, not a हैलोवीन party! Simplicity is the key.
4.Don't spend the तारीख, दिनांक texting, tweeting, या Facebooking:
~Focus your attention on your तारीख, दिनांक and leave the social networking for later!
5.Avoid talking about other boys:
~He especially doesn't want to hear about how much आप misses your ex या how cute या handsome your classmate या neighbor is.
6.Be a good listener:
~It's okay to talk about yourself, but make sure to ask him सवालों and listen to his stories as well.
7.Don't nag:
~He'll appreciate if आप call या text a few days after the तारीख, दिनांक to thank him and say आप had fun, but don't harass him the अगला week या panic if he doesn't respond immediately.
8.Don't lead him on:
~If आप realize you're not as interested in him as आप thought, politely let him know when he asks आप out again. It may upset him at first, but he'll surely appreciate your honestly in the long run.
Some of the old ways of dating could be use an upgrade. Welcome 2014 with these new and improved rules!
For most of us, the best--and usually our first--source of our dating सलाह is our family. We rely on the experiences and wise words of Mom, Sister, and in some cases even Grandmother, for the do's and don'ts of boys and relationships. But as years pass by, it might be time to rule out some of Mom's and Grandma's old (and old-fashioned) rules on dating and come up with reasonable guidelines that appeal to और modern minds.
The Old Way:
~Date only boys who belong to your वृत्त of friends.
The New Way:
~While there is some comfort in going out with guys you've known since grade school, remember that the whole point is dating is to get to know new people. The spirit of the new decade is overcoming boundaries, and a great way to take part in it is द्वारा dating outside your usual "type" या group. For instance, just because you're a computer geek, it doesn't mean that आप can't go out with a cute बास्केटबाल, बास्केटबॉल, बास्केट बॉल player. All it takes is a little confident. If Troy and Gabriella from High School Musical या Rachel and Finn from Glee were able to do it, why can't you?
The Old Way:
~Wait द्वारा the phone for him to call to ask आप out.
The New Way:
~The old saying, "Never call a boy first", may have been right during your grandmother's time, but with all the ways of communication available now, it seems silly not to drop him any hints that you're interested. Text him, chat him over Yahoo Messenger, leave a message on his फेसबुक Wall, या mention him on Twitter. आप don't have to ask him out straight up if you're not comfortable with it, but it's okay to remind him that you're around if he wants to hang out.
The Old Way:
~Ask him to pick आप up from your house.
The New Way:
~Sure, there's still some merit to having a guy दिखाना up at your doorstep, then drop आप off after the तारीख, दिनांक for a possible Hollywood-style goodnight kiss. But there's also no reason why आप can't meet him at a public place, like the restaurant where आप plan to have रात का खाना या the bowling alley where आप intended to hang out. Arriving and leaving on your own saves time---and it helps आप avoid an awkward drive घर if the तारीख, दिनांक goes sour.
The Old Way:
~Just have a रात का खाना and watch movie.
The New Way:
~It's not the 50's anymore---dating doesn't have to mean रात का खाना and movie all the time. Though it's great to share a meal and see a cool flick, there are tons of other fun activities आप can do together without spending too much like playing at the park, bowling, ice skating and many more. आप can even bring some mutual फ्रेंड्स along to avoid any uncomfortable first-date experience moments. लपेटें up the दिन (or night) at a quiet coffee खरीडिए so आप can grab a bite, talk about your adventures together, and get to know each other in peace.
The Old Way:
~Sit pretty and let him make all the decisions.
The New Way:
~The days when girls were not much और than decoration for the रात का खाना तालिका, टेबल are long gone. Most of the guys like girls who think for themselves, and who can churn out और than just, "Anywhere आप want, it's up to you" in response to the question, "So, where do आप want to go?" Feel free to suggest a restaurant आप प्यार या an activity आप find interesting. Your तारीख, दिनांक will appreciate your sharing the pressure of decision-making and will respect आप और for it.
The Old Way:
~Turn away all his compliments so आप won't seem too eager या mayabang.
The New Way:
~One of the most common compliments among guys is that girl's can't seem to take a compliment. There's no need for आप to bring yourself down या tell him, "You're just saying that." Accept his praise with grace! Nine times out of 10, he's telling the truth and आप know it. A simple "Thank you" will दिखाना that you're confident and comfortable with your self---plus, he'll appreciate being thanked for noticing how nice आप look in your dress या how much pretty आप are.
The Old Way:
~Introduce your तारीख, दिनांक to your parents first.
The New Way:
~While your parents' opinions definitely matter, putting your guy in the hot सीट too soon exerts unnecessary pressure on the relationship. A guy who doesn't know आप that well may not yet be ready for your Mom's loaded statements and your Dad's underhanded threats. It's best to wait for things to become serious before bringing him घर to your family. It also helps आप avoid all the awkward सवालों when things end before they can truly begin.
The Old Way:
~Expect fireworks and romance on a one-on-one date.
The New Way:
~These days, there's a huge difference between a friendly date and a date-date. A guy won't break out the flowers, chocolates, and sweet gestures right away. Chances are, he'll call it "hanging out" and fall a few notches sort of The Perfect Gentleman In Your Head. The modern girl knows not to expect too much from a single date---and knows that chemistry and attraction can never be forced.
The Classics:
While some rules evolved overtime, there are still etched in the stone.
1.Be your self:
~Put your best foot forward, but make sure आप stay true to who आप are. Never lie to impress.
2.Be on time:
~We know आप want to be fashionably late, but keeping him waiting any longer than 15 मिनटों is just a plain rude.
3.Wear an appropriate amount of makeup:
~It's a date, not a हैलोवीन party! Simplicity is the key.
4.Don't spend the तारीख, दिनांक texting, tweeting, या Facebooking:
~Focus your attention on your तारीख, दिनांक and leave the social networking for later!
5.Avoid talking about other boys:
~He especially doesn't want to hear about how much आप misses your ex या how cute या handsome your classmate या neighbor is.
6.Be a good listener:
~It's okay to talk about yourself, but make sure to ask him सवालों and listen to his stories as well.
7.Don't nag:
~He'll appreciate if आप call या text a few days after the तारीख, दिनांक to thank him and say आप had fun, but don't harass him the अगला week या panic if he doesn't respond immediately.
8.Don't lead him on:
~If आप realize you're not as interested in him as आप thought, politely let him know when he asks आप out again. It may upset him at first, but he'll surely appreciate your honestly in the long run.