Charm-the Real Feminine Mystique:
"A girl need not have perfect features nor an outstanding figure to be popular. But she should have charm. As Sir James Barrie had Maggie say in his play, What Every Woman Knows, 'If आप have it, आप don't need to have anything else; and if आप don't have it, it doesn't much matter what else आप have.'
Once आप have acquired charm, you'll probably never lose it. Especially after आप have discovered how much happier your life is because आप are considered to be that charming girl down the street.
To be charming आप need not to be any particular age, weight या height या have any specific coloring या proportions. Charm is like an essence. It is easier to recognize it in a person than to define it, although Webster's Third New International Dictionary says that charm is 'a combination of entirely attractive and delightful traits.'
लेखक and scholar Havelock Ellis wrote, 'Charm is a woman's strength just as strength is a man's charm.'"
So some of आप might have guessed as much, but I am definitely a person who is living "out of my time" in the sense that I feel like I would fit in better with a different era. That being said, I have one of those old "Charm Handbooks" from the early 1970s before American woman started throwing away all of their charm and graces out of the window. I प्यार this book, the values it teaches and the सलाह it gives. Most of all, I प्यार how this book has never made me feel और proud of femininity and what true femininity produces. I wish that charm schools were still a big deal in America, especially since they are और needed now than they were in their time. Since this valuable wealth of knowledge has been cast away as "old-timey" instead of recognized as "tried and true", I thought I would share some of it here, for those who still care about women having grace, respecting each other and having better relations with other people. In relation to the डिज़्नी Princesses, I have attached each DP to the attribute of charm that I think she best represents:
"Don't blame your family, circumstances या birth for what आप are. Your personality can become the way आप wish it to be... It is up to आप to make the changes necessary for improvement. Changing is a part of growing, a process that began when आप were born. It continues all your life. द्वारा giving और thought to your attitudes, आप can alter and redirect the course of your life.
Remember you'll only be as beautiful as the inner आप permits. Cosmetics, clothing, and a trim figure can do wonders, but they can seldom hide a distorted inner you."
Poise: Aurora
The poised girl maintains calm when she has a difficult situation to handle. She goes about it naturally and easily and avoids nervous movements of the body. This will only serve to work to her advantage. She does not want to let her enemies know they have affected her and she doesn't want to lose her head in impulsive and irrational thoughts. Her grace will also help her lead others into being और calm in a difficult situation.
Spirit of Adventure: Ariel
Since आप can't always pack your bags and sail to faraway islands, begin to develop a spirit of adventure द्वारा trying new ideas, new thoughts, a new method of study, a new way of wearing your hair या even a new food! Trying new things opens up और possibilities in your life. आप will be able to learn और about yourself (including what आप like and don't like) as well as others. [This will also give आप और to talk about with a bigger range of diverse people.]
Sense of Humor: Anna
You'll find the person आप enjoy being with most is the one who finds the things आप say witty. और important, the one who enjoys being with आप is also someone whose wit आप appreciate. Look for the things in life worth laughing about. If आप take yourself too seriously and cannot laugh about simple things, this will have an effect on your later संपूर्ण, कुल मिलाकर health. You'll get extra points for telling a funny story about yourself. Remember, however, to laugh with people, not at them.
Appreciation of Beauty: चमेली & Pocahontas
आप can hardly be charming and beautiful if आप can't see and feel beauty. If आप haven't thought about it, try, to appreciate the beautiful things in life. There is beauty all around- in the shape of a leaf, the changing sky, the smell of spring, या the laughter of a friend.
Be An Interesting/Interested Conversationalist: Elsa
आप should be interesting to others. That means आप must be able to contribute to a conversation- at a party, in groups, large या small, even on a one-to-one basis. Find out what आप really like. Learn to talk about interests such as music, books, फिल्में या sports etc.
Spiritual Graciousness: Snow White
Spiritual graciousness is at the दिल of charm. Know and practice the courtesies of daily living. Avoid jokes at the expense of others; avoid gossip and a condemnatory attitude. Forgive those who hurt you. दिखाना tolerance for those who upset you. Generosity of spirit involves giving credit and praise from when they are deserved. Respect the opinions and rights of other people. Treat them the way आप would like to be treated regardless of their station in life. The Golden Rule is as important today as ever.
Balanced Emotions: सिंडरेला & Belle
Perhaps the hardest requirement of all is self-discipline- control of yourself and your emotions. Spontaneously दिखा रहा है happiness, joy, surprise- या even annoyance when आप are angered- is to be true to yourself. But to live happily with others, आप also must exercise self-control. It is this balance between spontaneity of feelings and discipline या control that आप will want to achieve.
Making Friends: Rapunzel
The charming girl is interested in virtually all [good] people and all aspects of life. She knows that almost everyone [decent] can contribute something to her life. So meet and make new friends; don't your वृत्त of फ्रेंड्स to just a few if आप really want to grow.
Good Family Relationships & Values: मूलन & Tiana
Because we are so close to our families, we tend to lose sight of the fact that they deserve the same courtesies we give others [especially strangers]. Too often we expect our parents, siblings, etc. to give और to us than we give to them. There should be mutual respect and understanding within family groups. If आप don't think आप are getting it, try giving it. It will probably be returned.
Self-Confidence: Merida
If आप don't like yourself, if आप don't feel your actions, habits या appearance can stand competition, या comparison, आप lack self-confidence. If आप don't believe in yourself, no one else will. If आप do believe in yourself, there is almost nothing in life आप wont be able to do.
"A girl need not have perfect features nor an outstanding figure to be popular. But she should have charm. As Sir James Barrie had Maggie say in his play, What Every Woman Knows, 'If आप have it, आप don't need to have anything else; and if आप don't have it, it doesn't much matter what else आप have.'
Once आप have acquired charm, you'll probably never lose it. Especially after आप have discovered how much happier your life is because आप are considered to be that charming girl down the street.
To be charming आप need not to be any particular age, weight या height या have any specific coloring या proportions. Charm is like an essence. It is easier to recognize it in a person than to define it, although Webster's Third New International Dictionary says that charm is 'a combination of entirely attractive and delightful traits.'
लेखक and scholar Havelock Ellis wrote, 'Charm is a woman's strength just as strength is a man's charm.'"
So some of आप might have guessed as much, but I am definitely a person who is living "out of my time" in the sense that I feel like I would fit in better with a different era. That being said, I have one of those old "Charm Handbooks" from the early 1970s before American woman started throwing away all of their charm and graces out of the window. I प्यार this book, the values it teaches and the सलाह it gives. Most of all, I प्यार how this book has never made me feel और proud of femininity and what true femininity produces. I wish that charm schools were still a big deal in America, especially since they are और needed now than they were in their time. Since this valuable wealth of knowledge has been cast away as "old-timey" instead of recognized as "tried and true", I thought I would share some of it here, for those who still care about women having grace, respecting each other and having better relations with other people. In relation to the डिज़्नी Princesses, I have attached each DP to the attribute of charm that I think she best represents:
"Don't blame your family, circumstances या birth for what आप are. Your personality can become the way आप wish it to be... It is up to आप to make the changes necessary for improvement. Changing is a part of growing, a process that began when आप were born. It continues all your life. द्वारा giving और thought to your attitudes, आप can alter and redirect the course of your life.
Remember you'll only be as beautiful as the inner आप permits. Cosmetics, clothing, and a trim figure can do wonders, but they can seldom hide a distorted inner you."
Poise: Aurora
The poised girl maintains calm when she has a difficult situation to handle. She goes about it naturally and easily and avoids nervous movements of the body. This will only serve to work to her advantage. She does not want to let her enemies know they have affected her and she doesn't want to lose her head in impulsive and irrational thoughts. Her grace will also help her lead others into being और calm in a difficult situation.
Spirit of Adventure: Ariel
Since आप can't always pack your bags and sail to faraway islands, begin to develop a spirit of adventure द्वारा trying new ideas, new thoughts, a new method of study, a new way of wearing your hair या even a new food! Trying new things opens up और possibilities in your life. आप will be able to learn और about yourself (including what आप like and don't like) as well as others. [This will also give आप और to talk about with a bigger range of diverse people.]
Sense of Humor: Anna
You'll find the person आप enjoy being with most is the one who finds the things आप say witty. और important, the one who enjoys being with आप is also someone whose wit आप appreciate. Look for the things in life worth laughing about. If आप take yourself too seriously and cannot laugh about simple things, this will have an effect on your later संपूर्ण, कुल मिलाकर health. You'll get extra points for telling a funny story about yourself. Remember, however, to laugh with people, not at them.
Appreciation of Beauty: चमेली & Pocahontas
आप can hardly be charming and beautiful if आप can't see and feel beauty. If आप haven't thought about it, try, to appreciate the beautiful things in life. There is beauty all around- in the shape of a leaf, the changing sky, the smell of spring, या the laughter of a friend.
Be An Interesting/Interested Conversationalist: Elsa
आप should be interesting to others. That means आप must be able to contribute to a conversation- at a party, in groups, large या small, even on a one-to-one basis. Find out what आप really like. Learn to talk about interests such as music, books, फिल्में या sports etc.
Spiritual Graciousness: Snow White
Spiritual graciousness is at the दिल of charm. Know and practice the courtesies of daily living. Avoid jokes at the expense of others; avoid gossip and a condemnatory attitude. Forgive those who hurt you. दिखाना tolerance for those who upset you. Generosity of spirit involves giving credit and praise from when they are deserved. Respect the opinions and rights of other people. Treat them the way आप would like to be treated regardless of their station in life. The Golden Rule is as important today as ever.
Balanced Emotions: सिंडरेला & Belle
Perhaps the hardest requirement of all is self-discipline- control of yourself and your emotions. Spontaneously दिखा रहा है happiness, joy, surprise- या even annoyance when आप are angered- is to be true to yourself. But to live happily with others, आप also must exercise self-control. It is this balance between spontaneity of feelings and discipline या control that आप will want to achieve.
Making Friends: Rapunzel
The charming girl is interested in virtually all [good] people and all aspects of life. She knows that almost everyone [decent] can contribute something to her life. So meet and make new friends; don't your वृत्त of फ्रेंड्स to just a few if आप really want to grow.
Good Family Relationships & Values: मूलन & Tiana
Because we are so close to our families, we tend to lose sight of the fact that they deserve the same courtesies we give others [especially strangers]. Too often we expect our parents, siblings, etc. to give और to us than we give to them. There should be mutual respect and understanding within family groups. If आप don't think आप are getting it, try giving it. It will probably be returned.
Self-Confidence: Merida
If आप don't like yourself, if आप don't feel your actions, habits या appearance can stand competition, या comparison, आप lack self-confidence. If आप don't believe in yourself, no one else will. If आप do believe in yourself, there is almost nothing in life आप wont be able to do.